I've been so much struggling with this thing called IDENTITY
and to be honest I still have to work on it, but after deep thoughts and some
experiences I got an insight and I hope it will also help/inspire you if you
are in the same predicament.
We most of the time want something to be attached to our
names, something to identify us among others, and those thing we want to get it
from the outside world; from our education, our carrier, our spouses, our
boy/girlfriend, our parents, our religion, country, race, tribe… name them, to
be called Mrs. Someone, someone’s boy/girlfriend, Dr. Who, Eng. Who, Pr. Who,
etc. These things are not bad at all, we
have earned them or achieved them, but they are not who we really are, we are
much more than that; our true identity is in us.
The bad thing of searching for your identity from the
outside world is that it lowers the whole of you to that specific thing when
you are actually so much more than that. Let’s take an example of a person who
is in a wrong/miserable marriage or relationship, when this person has attached
his/her identity to that relation; it gets too hard for him/her to get out of it
because he/she worries too much about what people will say about it, what will
become of him/her since he/she has been
known as someone’s boy/girlfriend for
years, and he/she would think that nothing is left of him/her because that’s
all he/she has made of his/her identity and not from the person he/she really
is.
I think our identity should be found from us, from our inner
being, our character. Therefore we ought to cultivate a noble one, made of
universal principles and values such as: honesty, responsibility, integrity,
respect for others, justice, truthfulness, faith, patience, trust, self-control,
and most of all LOVE, live by them daily until they become your identity.
Imagine how awesome it would be to be identified as that caring girl or that
respectful gentleman!
And on top of that we have a universal and rather unique
identity, we are God’s sons and daughters, that’s why we call Him our heavenly
father, but we often tend to forget this incredible truth and try so much to
build shacks of identities for our own Which cannot really take us that far in
this life no matter how much we invest in them. Bearing in mind that you are
made of God’s image and that His love, grace, mercy and forgiveness are fully
bestowed on you, will enable you to stand any kind of rejection by your fellow
men in whom you want to be identified.
I hope you find your true identity in your heavenly father
cause that’s actually where it really is, let the thought that you are special
and valued in God’s eyes be the source of your self-esteem and worthy, let the
knowledge that God lives in you give you the power to walk with your head on
your shoulders and to stand tall in all areas of your life and let it give you
the power to be humble and to love as He loves.
Never be so obsessed by your image that you forget from whom
it is made!
With Love,
Tasha
