Hey there!
maybe you have also come across this quote saying that if there's anything better than being loved, it is to love, and you have believed it, isn't? because its true. But as far as I have lived ( I haven't lived that long though!) the reality seemed to be different from that, people hurt in love relationships, people cry and break down while they are in love, and I fail to see the beauty of Love in the midst of those heartbreaks in the name of Love.
My best friend told me that as gold needs to go through the fire to attain its purity, so does love has to go through it to attain total growth, purity and value, that when you love someone you need to help them to become the best people they can be in introducing them to their inner person, which is actually not easy to deal with, because the truth is mostly hard to swallow, it sounded wise and true. But I believe that even when doing so, remember you're in love and you have to keep this person feel secured, loved, valued and feel like the most important thing in your life, anything less than that will make her/him unhappy, unsecured, and broken.
So dear readers, please help me to understand how to attain this growth in love and still be happy together.
Thanks for reading!
God bless!
i really don't know what i can add to what u have said because it's all true. But as the scripture says Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. when ur partner does something u don't like u need to help him, forgive, be patient.... just make sure u're with someone who deserve u! coz people wants the impossible in love and then complain that love hurts or sucks...
ReplyDeleteWell Tasha, first of all you are asking us to remember that we are in love. Love isn't a state, it is an action. So once you are in a state, which for this case is love, then at some point you have to change states. However you are loving someone, then everyday is an opportunity to learn how to love in a even better way than before. You should be with someone who you are (relatively) unafraid of telling the ugly truth from time to time. If you love someone, you will want to whatever you need to do to build them up and that also includes doing somethings that don't look pretty.
ReplyDeleteDiane, Thank you for reminding us that incredible definition/description of Love that its actually not easily comprehended by the world today, thus we draw wrong expectations from Love. and u made a very strong point that sometimes its not that there's any problem with Love, but its because you're stuck with the wrong person, therefore everything else will be wrong and you'll blame an innocent cause.
ReplyDeleteLeni, now you have challenged me, I have to admit that I haven't though of the difference between love being a state or an action,(which I will still want to know more about)... so my point here is the process of putting the ugly truth about somebody, yes it does look pretty at all, and in process it may hurt... and that's where I think it should be done carefully, cause there's saying that there's a thin line between love and hate...
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