A Cruel comfort and a generous thief

Hey there!

It's been ages that I haven't written a thing, am sure some of you have forgotten about this blog and no excuse can be enough for you, but here I am, am back and as people make resolutions for new year, mine was to be faithful to this blog this year :)

Today I'd love to share with you something I have been thinking of lately, a cruel comfort and a generous thief, am convinced that if you have read more than two of my posts you now know that I like to use oxymoron, yeah, because they help me bring out the real meaning of what we do and the impact they really get on us.

COMPARISON is what am talking about today, we so much like to compare ourselves to other people, our friends, our siblings, our workmates and sometimes to people we don't even know , we call ourselves successful comparing to other people's failure or we just feel much comfortable when we realize that there are some other people going through the same struggles as we are going through.

I've seen this happening more in Christian communities, where you see people feeling much comfortable to find out  that someone else is committing the same sin as they are fighting with, or much worse, people feeling much better because someone they didn't think is actually committing what they would call a worse sin. people love to know that they have company in their misery, but it doesn't take away even a small piece off their situation.

Because, when God looks at you, He doesn't compare you with any other person on earth or in heaven, He sees you as if you were the only person existing, and He has a plan for you that isn't comparable to any other person's plan. and so should you not compare your progress and success to someone else behind you but only to where God brought you from and where He is taking you.

This is one part of comparison where you see yourself on the better side, but there's another one!

The part of comparison, where you see yourself on the worse side, you look at other people and wonder what is wrong with you, you look at their success, their health, their relationships, and ask yourself if God has forgotten about you or if He is punishing you for some mistakes you made in the past. Now, you would be a saint if you have never felt like this before, because to be honest I've found myself in times like that and I had to remind myself of who God is and how deals with our past mistakes. He does not deal with us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities, but He forgives and forgets, and gives new beginnings.

It takes a great deal of faith and trust in God that He is doing something amazing in your life even when all you can see around you are things that you don't have and wish you had. Comparing is the number one robber/thief of joy and happiness, it shifts your view/attention from what God is doing in your own life to what He is doing in someone else's life, and you miss the opportunity to thank Him and trust Him for the rest.

I hope this year you choose to focus on your journey as an individual, only comparing yourself to who you were yesterday and nothing else. Let the heavenly standards be your only measure of righteousness and not what anyone else does or doesn't do, let God unfold His plans for you in His own way customized just for you, because you are so unique.

Wish you a grateful 2015!

With love,

Natasha

When God Asks a Question with Christine

Hey there!

Am so happy to Introduce to you my sister Christine, she's one of the amazing people I've met, with an unfading beautiful smile and a strong spirit, when I read this from her Facebook wall, the next thing I did was to ask her if I can share it on this blog, which she eagerly accepted and I can't thank her enough!

I was blessed, hope you be blessed too!

My lovely sister Christine!

When I read the bible,
I love when God asks a question. 
He doesn't ask for Himself. He already knows the answer. 

He asks us because he wants us to understand and get it.

He asked Adam, "Where art thou?" Sometimes we don't realize where we are in life and it takes the voice of God to remind us.

He asked Moses, "What is that that you have in your hand?" Many times the very blessing we need is already in our grasp.

He asked Malachi, "Will a man rob God?" It's so easy to give our time to everything but the work of The Lord.

He asked Ezekiel, "Can these bones live?" Sometimes you may think a situation in your life has died, but God is reminding you that it can live. It's not dead. It's not over.

He asked a lame man, "Wilt thou be made whole?" God already knows He has the power to deliver you but you need to want to be delivered.

He asked Abraham, "Is there anything too hard for God?"

Think about that as you're going through life.
I don't care what it looks like. There is nothing too hard for God to do


Gratefully,

Tasha

The Transforming Power!

Hey!

By now you might be curious about this transforming power, wondering what it transform or who does it transform,who needs it, how does it work, etc

Well, this power transforms lives, relationships, families, everything that is broken and needs fixing! it transforms those who apply it in their daily lives and the people around them, and it works in very normal way that you'll find yourself transformed in a way you didn't imagine, the special thing about this transforming is that it doesn't stop by you, but transforms even the people around you.

This Transforming Power is made of the following Five components:

1. Respect For Self

You need to develop a genuine respect for yourself in the first place, separate what happened to you from who you are, and know that respecting yourself is more than a  duty but a principle, refuse to look down on yourself in any case.

2. Caring For Others

Caring for others is the second rule of the transforming power, it says that you have to see everyone as you see yourself, respect everyone with the respect you have for yourself, with this rule, you will not allow a fellow human being to hurt, but will care for all with love and respect.

3. Think Before Acting

This is a culture that our generation is eliminating in their daily lives hence the  increase of regrets and heartbreaking, Thinking before acting is the best way to avoid regrets and all sorts of nightmares in life.Its just giving a thought to every action before its implemented in considering the 2 previous rules.

4. Expecting The Best

This week I had a date with a new friend and he told me that one special thing about him is that he NEVER WORRIES. He took God by his word from Matthew 6:27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?(KJV) he explored this verse in saying, which one of you by worrying has added anything to his life? and for sure, we ought not to worry about anything, just put our full trust in the Lord and expect the best for the future.



5. Ask For A Non Violent Solution

The last but not the least is to ask for a non violent way to solve conflicts or misunderstandings, anytime you have to solve a conflict look please choose the non violent way, violence is not only physical, even shouting and saying negative words that hurt is violent, go for the gentle way, and it won't go wrong.

You got the concept of the Transforming Power, now its up to you to let it work in your life.
See you at the Top!!!

Gratefully

Tasha

Choose Your Name

In life our choices are quite limited that we don’t even chose our own names… and some of us don't really like them and maybe wish they had different names.

But am participating in this awesome training about communication and public speaking and one of the interesting things that we did today was to choose our own names and give them to ourselves, it sounded strange to me when they just said it but I loved it at the end.

It goes like this… you look at the first letter of your second name, for my example is Natasha (N) then you choose a name of your own starting with that letter according to what you love, who you are, what you aspire to, what inspires you, whatever you want as long it builds you up and makes you happy and proud.

Mine ended up being Nature Natasha and Tuza Tasha :-) we had Rose Rachel, Victor Vincent, Elite Eugene, and V.I.P Vital (and it was the coolest)!

So please make your own name now and submit it, we will see the coolest here too.

Have a new name and be a new you!

Am learning a lot in this training and I will keep on 

sharing them with you!

Love,

Tasha

I Hope You Dance

Hello my lovely reader,

I was going through  my favorite playlist of over 2 years back and found this song that I loved meaningfully. I listened to it again and realized that I forgot to dance as I have promised myself when I was in hardship and said that the time I will get back in school and be happy again that I will dance, but I didn’t dance  and am nearly graduating…I got  busy procrastinating my happiness, waiting for a better and better occasion to dance… yes I know my best days are yet to come, but I got to dance and keep on dancing along with the life’s rhythm even though it changes from day to day! hope you join me and DANCE!

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder,

You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger,
May you never take one single breath for granted,
GOD forbid love ever leave you empty handed,
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you dance….I hope you dance.

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin’ might mean takin’ chances but they’re worth takin’,
Lovin’ might be a mistake but it’s worth makin’,
Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,
When you come close to sellin’ out reconsider,
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I hope you be able to celebrate the improvements in your life, dance on  every step you make towards your goals (hope you have it/ them), and be grateful, for even though you are not where you want to get, you are not even where you used to be.

Find Your True Identity!

I've been so much struggling with this thing called IDENTITY and to be honest I still have to work on it, but after deep thoughts and some experiences I got an insight and I hope it will also help/inspire you if you are in the same predicament.

We most of the time want something to be attached to our names, something to identify us among others, and those thing we want to get it from the outside world; from our education, our carrier, our spouses, our boy/girlfriend, our parents, our religion, country, race, tribe… name them, to be called Mrs. Someone, someone’s boy/girlfriend, Dr. Who, Eng. Who, Pr. Who, etc.  These things are not bad at all, we have earned them or achieved them, but they are not who we really are, we are much more than that; our true identity is in us.

The bad thing of searching for your identity from the outside world is that it lowers the whole of you to that specific thing when you are actually so much more than that. Let’s take an example of a person who is in a wrong/miserable marriage or relationship, when this person has attached his/her identity to that relation; it gets too hard for him/her to get out of it because he/she worries too much about what people will say about it, what will become of him/her since he/she  has been known as someone’s boy/girlfriend  for years, and he/she would think that nothing is left of him/her because that’s all he/she has made of his/her identity and not from the person he/she really is.

I think our identity should be found from us, from our inner being, our character. Therefore we ought to cultivate a noble one, made of universal principles and values such as: honesty, responsibility, integrity, respect for others, justice, truthfulness, faith, patience, trust, self-control, and most of all LOVE, live by them daily until they become your identity. Imagine how awesome it would be to be identified as that caring girl or that respectful gentleman!

And on top of that we have a universal and rather unique identity, we are God’s sons and daughters, that’s why we call Him our heavenly father, but we often tend to forget this incredible truth and try so much to build shacks of identities for our own Which cannot really take us that far in this life no matter how much we invest in them. Bearing in mind that you are made of God’s image and that His love, grace, mercy and forgiveness are fully bestowed on you, will enable you to stand any kind of rejection by your fellow men in whom you want to be identified.

I hope you find your true identity in your heavenly father cause that’s actually where it really is, let the thought that you are special and valued in God’s eyes be the source of your self-esteem and worthy, let the knowledge that God lives in you give you the power to walk with your head on your shoulders and to stand tall in  all areas of your life and let it give you the power to be humble and to love as He loves.

Never be so obsessed by your image that you forget from whom it is made!

With Love,

Tasha

I miss writing!

Hey there!

It's been a pretty long time without writing and trust me I miss it more than you miss reading something from here!

Well, I've been very busy the last two weeks working from the field, visiting the households of the beneficiaries of the project am working with in my Internship, and some of the realities I faced really brought me back to my senses and realized how blessed and rich I am. I came back more grateful than ever before... I hope to be able to count all the blessings in my life and live to be a blessing to someone else as I walk this journey called life.

There's a lot you can do to make someone grateful, by just doing the little things for someone else, they might not mean that a lot for you, but it would make someone's day brighter, getting a little bit out of your way for someone else, helping that old co-worker with her heavy bag coming to the office, carrying a cup of tea in the office to your co-worker in tea-break, giving a comfortable seat to that older person in the bus... from a grateful heart you will be able to make someone else grateful!

Gratefully,

Tasha